This is a pretty sentimental time of year for most folks. It’s when you start contemplating on 365 days of accomplishments, failures, goals, triumphs, and vacancies. People remember that they promised themselves–or maybe someone else–that there would be a change in the days that flew by. “This is my year!” numerous hashtags, Instagram selfies, and Facebook statuses announced on January 1st, only to be replaced with “Eating stale tortiilla chips and watching Netflix with the cat. Again.” by February.
As a culture we have decided that every year needs to top the one before, and while in itself this isn’t problematic, we shouldn’t trivalize that a year is a lot of time for things to go well and for things to go wrong. Just because you didn’t travel abroad or meet the right someone, or you ate more potato chips than you had planned or forgot you had a gym membership, doesn’t mean that the promises you made yourself (possibly [most definitely] in an emotioal and/or drunken state) in the cold depths of winter were for nothing.
The most incredible thing to me about being a young adult is that we are constantly changing, and the kicker is–we’re supposed to be. It’s the only time in our lives where we can use the excuse that we are “finding ourselves”–because pretty soon, we are gonna have to find some sort of version of ourselves and hope that version doesn’t totally suck. People look at young adults and say “This is the time of your life for adventure, to find out what you really want”, and that is pretty rad.
So if we are allowed to spend this time to find our what we really want, why are we so hard on ourselves that we didn’t keep dumb resolutions? Maybe you thought what you really wanted was to lose 20 pounds, but then you started a fulfilling hobby that made that extra weight feel a little less signifcant? Does that mean you didn’t fulfill your yearly resolution, or that you got to experience something that you really wanted, not just an idea of what you maybe thought you wanted for the new year?
New Year’s is awesome in so many ways. It’s a time for reflection and an opportunity to be grateful, and both are vital when deciding what needs to happen in your life to help you grow and prosper with each year. Every day I am reminded that I am so fortunate, and when I think about those things that make me happy to enter each day, it helps me focus and take into account what is important, what needs to become important, and what shit needs to be thrown to the curb. This shouldn’t just happen the last week of December–it should be a constant evolution of that we strive for daily. It all goes back to taking time each day to be grateful, which is something we should all do. When you take this energy to think about what makes you feel fulfilled or happy each day, those yearly resolutions aren’t necessary–every day you can resolve to be a better version of yourself than you were the day before. In this, you will be satisfied, and you will only worry about how much champagne is available at the event you’re attending on New Year’s.
So, what am I reflecting on this year? I’m reflecting on the grace and experience that I have been given–so many opportunities and lessons have filled my heart in the past year. I am so happy with 2014 and the joy and growth it has brought me in my relationships, career, emotions, and overall health. So, with that, I’d like to share a few of this year’s highlights, and invite you all to take 2015 with all the gumption and excitement you can. You are awesome, you are important, and you are allowed to be flawed. Embrace it and evolve–it’s the only way we cantruly grow.
Happy 2015, darlings.