lessons.

I had a discussion with a good friend of mine recently that there are some things I wish were actually told in college, or high school, or whenever. Yes, academics are important and awesome, but there are just things I wish someone had shown me or told me about before they happened. To save you all some grief, I’ve typed out some of the things in my life that have happened I’ve been analyzing, and wish someone had explained to me in a text book earlier.

  • All relationships take work, not just the one with the person you’re in love with. Friendship takes effort, too.
  • You’re going to grow separately from people you have spend a considerable amount of time growing alongside, and that’s ok. If you keep lines of communication open, this will help.
  • Be available when you can, but don’t be afraid to say “I can’t”. If doing something will make you unhappy, you don’t have to do it.
  • Know your limits, and when it’s time to walk away. This goes for everything: friendships, jobs, and too much pizza.
  • If you’re a lady, don’t be afraid to be intimidating. Use your voice and be loud if you want. Use your brain and don’t apologize for it. If you’re a dude, be cool with ladies being intimidating, and support them when you agree.
  • People will always try to knock you down for wanting to be more than what they are.
  • Random acts of kindness go farther than you could ever initially believe.
  • Be an ally.
  • Remember to celebrate everyone’s successes, no matter how unrelated to your success it may be. We all have different goals and dreams, and just because it’s different than yours, it doesn’t mean it’s less than.
  • Never, ever let a boss tell you you’ll never do better than a job with them. It’s degrading, and you can do better. Promise.
  • Traveling the world doesn’t define an open-minded person. You can be just as close-minded after seeing the world as someone who has never stepped out of their hometown.
  • Live music is great, but sitting down at a concert is THE BOMB.
  • Always have a little money saved in case of emergencies, like your health insurance prices going up…or that pair of shoes you have been lusting over going on sale.
  • COOK FOR YOURSELF, DAMMIT. Don’t eat out (too much)! Cook and cook for others all the time.
  • Don’t be afraid to tell someone when they’ve hurt you. I was a doormat for many years of my life. When I stopped being a doormat, people stopped stomping all over me because they stopped visiting, and that’s ok too.
  • Try hard at your job, and ask for help when you need it.
  • Find a partner when you’re ready to ~settle down~ (dumbest term). Not a boyfriend/girlfriend, not a dude/lady to bone. You will have plenty of those. But when it’s ~The One~, you’re going to want a ride-or-die, defend you always, awesome partner that you will have to compromise, be honest, and be deeply in love with.
  • At some point, you’ll stop asking people how old they are, and friendships will bloom regardless of the years between your ages.
  • EXERCISE. I can’t stress it enough. Find some sort of weekly outlet of something you enjoy to do. Your metabolism will slow down and your body won’t be able to enjoy eating half a frozen pizza in one sitting like it used to.
  • You’ll start to bond with friends over something other than getting drunk and going out together (but you’ll still bond over that, too).
  • Hobbies will never stop being important. Get involved in things you’re passionate about and don’t stop.
  • Get your hair cut often and buy clothes that fit well.
  • Invest in things. Invest in good clothes, stock markets, and good people.
  • Celebrate and enjoy community.
  • When in doubt, NPR podcasts cure all ailments.
  • You’re never too old to start or rekindle a passion for doing something you love.
  • You don’t have to like everybody, but if you’re gonna be a jerk, have a solid reason to be one.
  • It’s totally fine to have a weird, loud laugh.
  • Falling in love with yourself is the most important thing you can do.

I love how everyone I know and care about is constantly evolving and learning, growing and exploring. We all figure out things on our own time, and these are things that have taken me years to understand and appreciate. I can’t wait to keep seeing what changes are ahead for all of us, and I hope you’ll share with my the knowledge you’ve gained along the way, too.

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